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Anthony was a very brave young lad who passed away in October 2002.
Below is a very moving letter from his mum Gill that shows just what an amazing boy he was.
Thank you so much for your e-mails, it really does help to know there are people out there thinking of us.
was first diagnosed with
osteosarcoma in April 2001. After the initial diagnosis and
hospital appointments to discuss his treatment, he decided he wanted to
try to raise some money in the hope that he might be able to stop other
children going through what he was going to have to deal
decided to be sponsored for having his head shaved and various other
raising events were organised by family and friends. In
2001 he completed his chemotherapy and handed over a cheque for £3000
to Cancer Research.
|In April this year,
we discovered that the cancer had spread to Anthony’s lungs and he
treatment again. On 8th July we were told that the treatment
not working, and that as the chemotherapy made Anthony so ill, it was
to stop the drugs so that Anthony would feel better for a
Anthony had the tumour removed from his leg last June but that
resulted in him spending most of his time in a wheelchair as he could
bend his leg and was not strong enough to walk on crutches or with a
His dream holiday was to go to New York but we were unable to get
cover for him, so thanks to the Children with Cancer Fund, we had a
at Futuroscope in France at the end of August/beginning of
Futuroscope is a type of theme park, which is mainly cinemas, so he was
able to enjoy most of the attractions from his wheelchair.
of that holiday will stay with me forever.
At the end of September, Anthony and I went to Birmingham for the weekend to attend Games Day at the Indoor Arena. This event is organised every year by Games Workshop and Anthony had been for the two previous years. The warhammer models gave Anthony a lot of pleasure, as he was able to make and paint them from both his bed and his chair. We had a wonderful weekend and Anthony bought more things for his collection.
Anthony at Futuroscope
Just over a week after that trip, Anthony died. It was 8th October, just three months after the doctors had told us that he was terminally ill. The funeral was held a week later on 15th October and was attended by over 200 people, including many of his friends and teachers from the Old Grammar School at Lewes. It sounds a silly thing to say, but the funeral was a lovely occasion. It showed to me just how many people Anthony had touched during his short life.
will always be remembered
for his sense of humour, his strength and his courage. He
every new problem without any self-pity and even managed to give me the
strength I needed to care for him. Over the last few months
life, Anthony had been seeing a spiritual healer. It was
that he had asked to do and he saw her every week with the exception of
the week we were in France. He never expected her to perform
miracles but no matter how he felt he always wanted to see her and was
always happier when he had been to her. He gained a lot from
and I am sure that her input helped him to deal with his death in the
and peaceful way that he did. Anthony became poorly on the
and was worse on the Monday. During Monday night he could not
but was not really awake either. He was lying in his bed and
sitting at his side, when he said to me ‘I am sitting on that chair
there and watching what we are doing’ he went on to say ‘ There is a
here but I don’t know who she is’. At that point I think I
that he was about to die, but because he was so calm, I remained calm
and just sat there holding his hand. A couple of minutes
said ‘ I can’t do this anymore’ I asked him what he meant and he
‘any of it’. I told him to close his eyes and go to
He took two more breaths and said ‘bye’ and then stopped
Throughout that night, he had remained calm, peaceful and showed no
of what he must have realised was happening to him. He was
amazing child to be able to cope with everything that he did without
fear and keeping his sense of humour throughout.
|Knowing that Anthony was going
to die was obviously very difficult to cope with but that time we had
so precious to both of us. Before Anthony was diagnosed with
I ran my own business, which kept me busy all day and well into the
often into the weekend as well. As soon as he was diagnosed,
work and spent all of my time caring for Anthony and trying to care for
Katie who has learning difficulties. It has been a very
18 months but also a wonderful time, because I have had the time to
develop the relationship between us. I obviously wish that
had been different and would have done anything to change it but I will
always be grateful for that 18 months I had with Anthony. I
so much from the relationship we developed over that time and I am sure
he did as well. We gained strength from each other and that
is keeping me going through the very difficult time that I face now.
The school are continuing to raise money for Cancer Research under their heading of FishAid, and in time, I will do the same. I am not sure what form that will take and do not want to rush into anything but Anthony wanted to raise money to stop other children going through what he went through and I will do that in his memory.
Well, Chris and Ursula, I hope I have not gone on too long for you. I have sat here with tears running down my face whilst typing this, so please excuse any errors. I have not been crying because of being upset but because I am so proud of being the mother of such a special young man and although I am not a religious person, I really do thank God for letting me be Anthony’s mother. My ex-husband and I adopted Katie when she was a year old as we had been told, after 10 years of trying, that it was extremely unlikely that we would have any children of our own. Less than two years later, I gave birth to Anthony. He really was a gift!
I look forward to meeting up with you one day.
of Anthony used with kind
permission of The Argus.